After reading all your replies I'm convinced you're my sister-in-law. You just described my ex-wife. Thankfully, we have a relatively peaceful pos-divorce relationship. We maintain that for our boys but I keep my doses small.

You're sister may judge others, control and manipulate but she can't get away with that forever. Adults will walk away from her. Someday her own children will keep their distance.

Yes, the movies always turn out okay but families are different. A movie has a writer who can wrap the story up in a neat bow. Families have many writers who each have their own idea of how things should be. There's the comflict.