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Yesterday one of my friends from the building and I went to the Farmer's Market together and planned for our little party later that night. She also bought some greens for the Thanksgiving dinner she's cooking. This particular stand had the most lucious greens-collards, and different types of kales. The leaves were big, ruffly, firm and so substantial. They were quite different than the other stands.
She picked up a half baked pizza from a little hot spot and I planned on making and serving hummus and flat bread and carrots, chips and guacomole, and a delicious boursault type cheese. I had extra stuff I'd gotten from the sample sale at work a few weeks ago that I wanted them to have, so I set up a disply on the dining room table; shirts, purses, jewelery bags, earrings, bracelets, necklaces. I had gotten a wine from Trader Joe's called Well Red-organic and tannin free and it was very good.
We told our stories, laughed, pumped each other up. They are 63 and 52, beautiful, powerful and intelligent women. Made me feel lucky.
They left around 11:30, I cleaned up and fell asleep on the couch. When I woke up, Home for the Holidays was on, with Holly Hunter and Robert Downey Jr. So I watched that, enjoying it very much and went to bed very late.
Today I felt very sad, not completely sure why. Eveyone knowing about the assault isn't helping me feel any better. My best friend from school days and I have been emailing and I emailed her today and told her. I know that people don't know how to react, they don't want to upset or trigger anything in me, plus they have their own feelings to deal with. It feels very blah and pointless to me, telling people. But it's out now. Smart caring people tell me it's good they know. Maybe I'll feel it soon.
I googled the name of the elderly lady who was killed across the street to see if anyone had been caught but there is nothing. I read the comments in the article about the assault on me. I do wonder if it's the same guy. So that wasn't really an uplifting period of the day.
Watered plants, did laundry, took a nap and went to yoga and here I am.
Waiting for the joy to come flooding in.
She picked up a half baked pizza from a little hot spot and I planned on making and serving hummus and flat bread and carrots, chips and guacomole, and a delicious boursault type cheese. I had extra stuff I'd gotten from the sample sale at work a few weeks ago that I wanted them to have, so I set up a disply on the dining room table; shirts, purses, jewelery bags, earrings, bracelets, necklaces. I had gotten a wine from Trader Joe's called Well Red-organic and tannin free and it was very good.
We told our stories, laughed, pumped each other up. They are 63 and 52, beautiful, powerful and intelligent women. Made me feel lucky.
They left around 11:30, I cleaned up and fell asleep on the couch. When I woke up, Home for the Holidays was on, with Holly Hunter and Robert Downey Jr. So I watched that, enjoying it very much and went to bed very late.
Today I felt very sad, not completely sure why. Eveyone knowing about the assault isn't helping me feel any better. My best friend from school days and I have been emailing and I emailed her today and told her. I know that people don't know how to react, they don't want to upset or trigger anything in me, plus they have their own feelings to deal with. It feels very blah and pointless to me, telling people. But it's out now. Smart caring people tell me it's good they know. Maybe I'll feel it soon.
I googled the name of the elderly lady who was killed across the street to see if anyone had been caught but there is nothing. I read the comments in the article about the assault on me. I do wonder if it's the same guy. So that wasn't really an uplifting period of the day.
Watered plants, did laundry, took a nap and went to yoga and here I am.
Waiting for the joy to come flooding in.
Joe Friday
You tell the story, just the facts, and let them reply as they see fit. Not everyone reacts in a way that's helpful to you. Some start worrying about you. Others are insensitive and unsupportive. I believe most are understanding and concerned, but in a measured way.
You can't worry about how this news affects others. YOU are the victim. Let them deal with the news in their own way. In some cases (the caring people) you can reassure them you're doing okay in the healing process. In other cases (the jerks) you won't want to continue talking to them about it.
Take care of yourself and their concerns will be taken care of.
Re: Joe Friday