Intellectually, I do understand that parents can't pick sides. My therapist and I had a good laugh over this, because I said something like, well, I guess they like her. It makes me feel childish to want them to just say, god she's a bitch, so I am working very hard on letting that piece go. In another conversation a day or two later, I apologized and said I don't expect her to pick sides, but to understand I have very valid reasons for the decisions I made, etc. and she said no need to apologize and she respects my decisions, etc.
I appreciate your examples a lot, thank you.
I think the fact that I do see them more as "people" now than ideal parents is what made it so difficult for me to tell them what happened. But it's cool we're all getting through it and they sure do see me differently now.
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Date: 2009-12-05 05:10 am (UTC)I appreciate your examples a lot, thank you.
I think the fact that I do see them more as "people" now than ideal parents is what made it so difficult for me to tell them what happened. But it's cool we're all getting through it and they sure do see me differently now.