Yesterday I realized that in the last couple of weeks, one word has repeatedly popped into my conciousness and I've had a reaction to it each time. It has wings, it's trying to tell me something, so I delved into the deeper meanings. The word is "conversation." First it was missing and I had to stand up for it; next, it was used in a grossly inaccurate context and I had to banish it and lastly, it just wasn't the right word and it stayed.
Here's are the roots from an online etyomology dictionary:
Originally "having dealings with others," also "manner of conducting oneself in the world;" specific sense of "talk" is 1580.
Used as a synonym for "sexual intercourse" from at least 1511, hence criminal conversation, legal term for adultery from late 18c. Related: Conversational (1779); conversationalist (1836); conversationist (1806).
The 1st & 2nd definitions resonate, especially, "to turn about with" and "manner of conducting oneself in the world." I'm swinging my scythe, creating my path, trusting my gut. I'm doing something I've always loved to do for recognition and interacting with intelligent people who seem to generally respect others (wow man!) I'm reinventing. I feel like ME. (Sadly, the 3rd definition has no relevance ;-/)
It's interesting to me, how the omens and signs are everywhere.
1. The subject of my second story was a company that wants to build relationships between businesses and customers through story telling and "conversation." The company owners and employees share stories about themselves and the business, consumers are asked to register on the website and respond to any story that touches them. The idea is that the business owner will respond with another story, so a "conversation" happens. The assistant editor of the paper, rewrote the story and used the word "comments" instead of "conversations." In the end, after I fought for my words, my story was restored as I wrote it and "conversations" was put back.
2. When I testified, the public defender asked me if I was having "conversations" with the people who had gathered around me after the assault. I was insulted and felt belittled by her use of the word. The word diminished the severity of what I had just been through and the condition I was in. I said I wouldn't call them "conversations."
3. I covered a workshop to teach parents how to get more involved with the schools and to engage the community. The assistant editor called the workshop a "conversation" I asked if it could just be, "he participated," and leave "in the conversation" out. It stayed.
#3 was the least energetic of these. I wonder if that means I got the message?
I wonder what my next word is.
Update: late last night I got an email from the AE who had only then gotten to my email, she was fine with my request and took out "in the conversation"