The replies above touch on points I considered as I read your post.
When someone hurts me I tend to be upset, angry, whatever emotion strikes ...... but I get over it quickly if this person is not usually hurtful. As yumdeb said, if they say ""it's just how I am" they are acknowledging their uncaring insensitive nature. I will not get over it so quickly. They KNOW they're being hurtful. I will get over my friendship with them. I'm finished.
I know this is easier said than done when a sibling is involved but you can limit your exposure to her.
Sharp's use of 'carrying a torch' was spot on. As I read your account I thought, "Wait a minute. How much behind the back chatter is going on between your sister and her friend regarding your experience and difficult recovery?" To have this friend (I suspect she meant well) speaking partly on behalf of your sister seem off base to me.
If your sister has explaining to do I suggest she get on the phone and start talking in a different tone.
You owe her nothing. From the beginning I thought she and my ex were separated at birth. You can't allow people like that to manipulate your life and happiness. Every thing that happens has to be about them.
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Date: 2010-02-18 05:18 pm (UTC)When someone hurts me I tend to be upset, angry, whatever emotion strikes ...... but I get over it quickly if this person is not usually hurtful. As yumdeb said, if they say ""it's just how I am" they are acknowledging their uncaring insensitive nature. I will not get over it so quickly. They KNOW they're being hurtful. I will get over my friendship with them. I'm finished.
I know this is easier said than done when a sibling is involved but you can limit your exposure to her.
Sharp's use of 'carrying a torch' was spot on. As I read your account I thought, "Wait a minute. How much behind the back chatter is going on between your sister and her friend regarding your experience and difficult recovery?" To have this friend (I suspect she meant well) speaking partly on behalf of your sister seem off base to me.
If your sister has explaining to do I suggest she get on the phone and start talking in a different tone.
You owe her nothing. From the beginning I thought she and my ex were separated at birth. You can't allow people like that to manipulate your life and happiness. Every thing that happens has to be about them.