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Yesterday I started decorating a bit for the holidays. I love lights. I put white lights on my A-frame book-tv stand, they look charming. I'll put multi-colored lights around the 2 big windows-they only face another building, but it will look nice from the inside. There is a very slim chance I could get new blinds, so I'm waiting on putting them up, just in case. I put a few little things out. I'll make a trip to Salvation Army-since as I search for my various containers of Christmas stuff, I find old things that I forget I had and why I have saved them.

This past week was full. Monday was rough. Even after therapy, I think my headache was worse. She introduced me to a cool technique called Emo-free which uses pressure points and a funny little sequence of things you say or do to help break thought patterns. The goal is to acknowledge a problem and create self acceptance despite the existance of the problem. It helped alot.

Tuesday, I had my follow up with the oral surgeon who is a real cutie with a good personality and that went well. Mouth looks good, he listened to my concerns about all the triggering that went on. We don't meet again until March.

Thursday I met with the deputy DA and my advocat. Interesting. I was really emotional at first, just really quiet. I asked how we'd all be arranged because I wanted to be prepared for where the guy was sitting and what part of my vision he would be in. We went into a courtroom where a trial was taking place and I saw the placement. At this one, the defendant was on the end closest to the witness stand and the attorneys sitting next to him. When we left, I said, it looked like when I looked at the DA's, I would be seeing this guy. My DA said he would use a podium if that would make me feel better, right in front of me, but the defense probably wouldn't. They both stressed to me that I don't even have to look at the DA when I answer, I could look at the judge, who is opposite the table where they sit. I said, that's not considered rude, and they said no way. I asked what the guy would be doing, and my advocat said that typically, someone like him, would have his head lowered looking at the table and nothing else, or watching everything very detached, like a movie. They said there could be some eye rolling or shaking of the head, but said he probably wouldn't be displaying any hostility because it would look really bad for him. Regardless of what he was doing, they said to completley ignore him, it just doesn't matter. I asked if he would be in handcuffs and they said, probably not, but the bailif would be right there.

Then we went over what I would be asked. ( Read more... )( Read more... )